Crikey! Your missus is like a slightly more extreme version of mine :eek
Although with all due respect, it sounds like your missus has been getting away with it a lot longer than mine (we're long term although not married and no kids).
My missus has had a few of these crazy ideas that have cost me about £10-15k a time. Things like moving to the UK from Berlin, more recently moving to London and now she is on about expensive holidays that involve me maybe having to sell my motorbike to fund it.
Anyway, sometimes you have to be the a*hole, lay down the law, push back, tell her how mental she is, point out the reality, tell her things from your point of view and say if you don't like it, I love you, but that is the way it is, I'm not an endless pot of money, I can't give you everything you want and if I'm still not good enough, and you can't see how much I have done already, maybe it is time for you to move on.
I think I've done this 3times now, it scares the s* out of me everytime... but it always seems to scare her more and everytime she has rolled over. It feels super sh*t to say that and I hate that I have to be like it, but it works for me.
I must say women are the most counter intuitive things I have ever had to deal with. A necessary evil that can be unnecessarily evil!
Good luck with it mate!
*disclaimer - I know considerably more about motorbikes than I do about women.
Although with all due respect, it sounds like your missus has been getting away with it a lot longer than mine (we're long term although not married and no kids).
My missus has had a few of these crazy ideas that have cost me about £10-15k a time. Things like moving to the UK from Berlin, more recently moving to London and now she is on about expensive holidays that involve me maybe having to sell my motorbike to fund it.
Anyway, sometimes you have to be the a*hole, lay down the law, push back, tell her how mental she is, point out the reality, tell her things from your point of view and say if you don't like it, I love you, but that is the way it is, I'm not an endless pot of money, I can't give you everything you want and if I'm still not good enough, and you can't see how much I have done already, maybe it is time for you to move on.
I think I've done this 3times now, it scares the s* out of me everytime... but it always seems to scare her more and everytime she has rolled over. It feels super sh*t to say that and I hate that I have to be like it, but it works for me.
I must say women are the most counter intuitive things I have ever had to deal with. A necessary evil that can be unnecessarily evil!
Good luck with it mate!
*disclaimer - I know considerably more about motorbikes than I do about women.
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