I feel for you fella, I'll never forgot 23rd March 2012 as i pulled onto my parents drive I noticed all the lights on, the front door wide open, wtf is going on ! I enter to find my mother crying and in bits as my father has just had a stroke, it happened 5 mins after he parked his van outside, walked in and answered the telephone and suddenly crashed to the floor, by the time I had got there the ambulance had already rushed him to hospital, we rushed straight to the hospital and seeing him in intensive care was so upsetting it was like something had stolen his sole, they gave him 24hrs it was touch n go as my father had a serious stroke, he managed to pull through the night and spent the nxt 13wks in hospital I was at his bedside every day after work until they kicked me out in eve, it was very hard for me because my father had a business so I had to sort all that out and sell it as well as some property and still go to work myself, look after my mother and visit my father everyday and whilst I sat talking to him every eve it allowed me to read up on strokes and was very interesting and allowed me to understand, but all this came at a price after so long i ended up having a breakdown myself I was so drained. The stroke effected his left side of his body so it's the oppo side of the brain and my father was left handed so it caused complications with writing and banking so I have power of attorney and sort everything out. Eventually when he came home his speech was mumbled but 3 years later he talks fine, he cannot walk without aid and has a electric wheelchair, he is able to go toilet himself and that's important to him, he talks non stop now where as before you only got one line conversation. When he first came home I found my mum crying and she said it was all too much for her and she cannot cope and said he might have to go in a home, she had home help but she felt as tho they were invading and pushy, so we got shut of them and I now live around the corner and go there twice a day (morn & eve) everyday, go shopping, pay bills, do jobs and so now I live a double life, even when we have holidays I have to think whom will look in ! So my wifes family help with keeping an eye on them it's hard work but these are my parents and they wiped my shitty arse so I'm now repaying the favour. My father now says some awful things, swears calls me a cnunt (the effect of the stroke) but we have lots of great banter and talk shitte he looks forward to my vists everyday and talks non stop but I do miss not being able to ask him life questions and feel as tho ive lost my Dad and gained a Best mate but I'm thankful he is still around.
It's strange how I used to think they will live forever but that's not true, @70 still worked 6-days a week and was really fit being X-forces pt instructor and still muscular but that made no difference to the stroke.
So Maddog my deepest sympathies go out to you and your family, i no what your going through it will be a rough ride at times but there's light at the end of the tunnel even tho it seems like a long tunnel you will get there.
It's strange how I used to think they will live forever but that's not true, @70 still worked 6-days a week and was really fit being X-forces pt instructor and still muscular but that made no difference to the stroke.
So Maddog my deepest sympathies go out to you and your family, i no what your going through it will be a rough ride at times but there's light at the end of the tunnel even tho it seems like a long tunnel you will get there.