14-06-14, 09:28 PM
I had a discussion with my Dad at the hospital tonight. He mentioned maybe having to sell the house to pay for a care home, but he doesn't want to go into one. Nor do I think it's necessary. I've offered to quit my job to stay at home for him, and he suggested that I could claim carers allowance, but I don't think I'd be eligible. Anyone know about this? I've been told that the allowance is means tested on the basis of the HOUSEHOLD income and not the carer's income. Is that right? TBH, we could manage quite well without it, assuming my Dad can stop being so tight fisted :lol He has agreed that he would pay off the outstanding sum on the loan I took out for the bike, and with my brother around, hopefully it would mean I can still get out on it sometimes, as I also have my Armed Services pension - not a huge amount but perhaps enough.
I think I'm being a little bit selfish too, as the house and some savings he has stand to be mine and my brother's inheritance (which is what my Dad wants too), but I do think it works out well for everyone this way. My Dad gets what he wants - to finish his time at home, rather than in one of those impersonal (and potentially miserable) homes, and my brother wouldn't have to worry so much how my Dad is while he's at work.
Thoughts? Is this the right way to go about things? Mixed feelings barely begins to describe how I feel right now :\
I think I'm being a little bit selfish too, as the house and some savings he has stand to be mine and my brother's inheritance (which is what my Dad wants too), but I do think it works out well for everyone this way. My Dad gets what he wants - to finish his time at home, rather than in one of those impersonal (and potentially miserable) homes, and my brother wouldn't have to worry so much how my Dad is while he's at work.
Thoughts? Is this the right way to go about things? Mixed feelings barely begins to describe how I feel right now :\