16-05-14, 08:29 PM
You just have to do what you can do Nick, and make sure you are getting all the help you can.
My Mum's my Dad's carer but she's 78! She won't take any help. Been everywhere trying to get help for her, and there's plenty of help out there, but she won't accept any help at all. "Ah didnae want strangers in the hoose" she'll say.
My Dad still wants to be the big boss, and my Mum I'll still let him. It's bonkers. I mean it took weeks of negotiation to get his lawnmower off him so I could fix it and cut the bleedin grass. Sometimes I have to be forceful and say - look it needs sorted and I'm sorting it but he can get that angry and upset that I worry he'll have a heart attack. Basically I'm just going with the flow, doing what needs done now and again and waiting for the wheels to fall off, which sadly today or some time in the near future they will.
Meanwhile I'm gonna keep drinking, smoking, riding bikes and walking hills all year round. Something I'll get me before I get old (um that should be extra old, I'm already old :\ )
My Mum's my Dad's carer but she's 78! She won't take any help. Been everywhere trying to get help for her, and there's plenty of help out there, but she won't accept any help at all. "Ah didnae want strangers in the hoose" she'll say.
My Dad still wants to be the big boss, and my Mum I'll still let him. It's bonkers. I mean it took weeks of negotiation to get his lawnmower off him so I could fix it and cut the bleedin grass. Sometimes I have to be forceful and say - look it needs sorted and I'm sorting it but he can get that angry and upset that I worry he'll have a heart attack. Basically I'm just going with the flow, doing what needs done now and again and waiting for the wheels to fall off, which sadly today or some time in the near future they will.
Meanwhile I'm gonna keep drinking, smoking, riding bikes and walking hills all year round. Something I'll get me before I get old (um that should be extra old, I'm already old :\ )