10-10-12, 03:37 PM
(05-10-12, 12:17 PM)chaz link Wrote: We shouldn't be making light of this, abuse is a very evil thing but the world was a different place 40 or 50 years ago, if a teacher inflicted the injuries I got as a 11 year old, when I got the cane, they would go to jail for it now. Mind you it made sure you didn't do anything wrong or at least make sure you didn't get found out.
I agree we shouldn't make light of this but you cant compare sexual abuse to corporal punishment.
Yes the cane has been banned & if a teacher now uses it there would be an investigation. valid point that it was also a deterrent however that is a totally different thread.
(10-10-12, 07:50 AM)pitternator link Wrote: How would you react if someone you met 20 yrs ago said today you raped them ! ....go on, just what would you say and do ??
ok my wife was abused as a 10 year old and found out very recently that the abusers were abusing her sister at the same time.
even 30+ years on I asked why they didn't report it to the police. the reply from both victims was that it would kill their parents to know what had happened to them by people that they trusted!!!
they have both become strong people but the "strength" (for want of a better word) of an abuser is that they know that they can instill fear into their victims by telling them that even if they were to tell then who would believe them!!
Even now the abuser stil has the upper hand knowing what effect reporting an incident this late on will have.
It ain't what you ride, it's who you ride with!!!