focced_off, can I (as a mental health professional, biker, and divorcee now happily remarried )add my voice to the multitude here very concerned about what you've disclosed? Consider this - If the tables were turned and a bloke was behaving like this to his wife it would be a straight up case of "love, get far away from him as quickly as possible for keeps. And take the kids.." Despite you're male and she isn't, the situation is no different. This is abuse, it's controlling, bullying behaviour and it is deeply unhealthy for you and your kids. [/size]Men generally are uncomfortable with the idea that the "weaker sex" can be like this to them, but it goes on, lots.
[/size]I'll warrant that if you binned off the bike then something else, some other aspect of your behaviour or existence would be the focus of her wrath. If you continue to appease her, "tolerate" the situation, do nothing, it will likely as not get worse. Your kids are witnessing this - it will inform their attitude towards relationships, adults, the works. it will bend them - and you - out of shape. Example - couple I used to know. She became disillusioned with him, and started to rant, belittle, bully him, in front of their three kids. Eldest son learns that to "put dad down" is acceptable, and does same, with the tacit acceptance of his mum. The two (dad 45, son by then 14) were witnessed brawling publicly on several occasions, but she would not acknowledge there was any sort of a problem, and it took the intervention of my missus (threatening her with social services) before something happened (mercifully they are now divorced). In short, if you're glad we're taking this seriously, then you do the same fella, acknowledge this isn't going to change unless something else does. Very probably your marital status.... sorry but that IS likely. And no one deserves to live like this, even if they have the temerity to ride a motorbike....