In the same boat but with a 9 and 11yr old at stake (making me stay) so can only empathise I'm afraid Lew. Keep telling myself "one life"...........
No she is not worrying about me on the bike, I think she is hoping I break me fecking neck. lol. We were down in Spain for a few years and have recently moved back to France. The house we have bought is another money pit. I quietly went along with buying the place , anything for a quiet life. My fault should have had the balls to say no. Anyway every day it is DIY and I am sick of it. This is what really kicked us off this time. I mentioned about the bike meet and she says, and what about the decorating and all the jobs that need doing. That is when we both had the rant, so my parting shot was this is your fecking dream not mine. This is the 3rd foreign house we have owned and it has always been DIY and spending a fecking fortune. The first house was a 7 year project no sooner had I finished that one when she says I think I want to move. My son got married and when asked about grand children they both said no kids. So that is it away to sunny Spain which I love. The Villa we bought was not a complete reno project but enough to keep us busy. Son has a daughter who is nearly 3 now. Driving back and forth to Bordeaux every 6 weeks was no real ball ache. So last year she starts again I want to move back to France. Shall we say I am down nearly £50,000 and that is just buying and selling costs, never mind the £25,000 it cost to put a pool in in Spain. No enough is enough and if I want to have a pot left to piss in I gotta get out of this relationship. I think the law basically says if no dependant children everything goes 50/50. Mr self destruct I think your Mrs make be suffering a wee bit of post natal depression mate , keep a good eye on her.
Quote from: lew600fazer on 05 September 2016, 11:33:07 amNo she is not worrying about me on the bike, I think she is hoping I break me fecking neck. lol. We were down in Spain for a few years and have recently moved back to France. The house we have bought is another money pit. I quietly went along with buying the place , anything for a quiet life. My fault should have had the balls to say no. Anyway every day it is DIY and I am sick of it. This is what really kicked us off this time. I mentioned about the bike meet and she says, and what about the decorating and all the jobs that need doing. That is when we both had the rant, so my parting shot was this is your fecking dream not mine. This is the 3rd foreign house we have owned and it has always been DIY and spending a fecking fortune. The first house was a 7 year project no sooner had I finished that one when she says I think I want to move. My son got married and when asked about grand children they both said no kids. So that is it away to sunny Spain which I love. The Villa we bought was not a complete reno project but enough to keep us busy. Son has a daughter who is nearly 3 now. Driving back and forth to Bordeaux every 6 weeks was no real ball ache. So last year she starts again I want to move back to France. Shall we say I am down nearly £50,000 and that is just buying and selling costs, never mind the £25,000 it cost to put a pool in in Spain. No enough is enough and if I want to have a pot left to piss in I gotta get out of this relationship. I think the law basically says if no dependant children everything goes 50/50. Mr self destruct I think your Mrs make be suffering a wee bit of post natal depression mate , keep a good eye on her.Fucking hell mate I feel for you! Only you can decide what to do but the question is, is it the person that's causing you the stress, or the situation?In my experience, situations always change, but people never do.Sounds from what you've written like she's never satisfied with what she's got, but is that right? The situation has changed with your granddaughter now, so I can understand your mrs wanting to be closer to her.If you agreed to move but put your foot down and said 'This is the last move, and no more projects!', would that be ok for you both?And by the way, saying my Mrs has got a wee bit of PND is the understatement of the year, bloody parenthood's put us both on the happy pills!